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YUSS! Climax WITHOUT desperation!


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SO happy right now!  Didn't actually think I would ever manage this.  It's not that I want to leave desperation behind - far from it - but for a long time I have dearly wanted to at least have the option of climaxing without a full bladder.  I mean, I don't want to have to rely on my bladder pushing itself to its limits to get that feeling - i go through crazes of wanting to orgasm a lot and then not so much.  Doing so too often could damage my bladder permanently if bladder fullness is the only way to achieve it.  Some basic info:

 

- I am single, and am not that turned on by anything to do with sex, fliratation or romance, though I would love a close and tactile (no snogging, no stripping, cuddling and hand holding and co-sleeping but no sex), David-and-Jonathan (in the wholly platonic sense) one-to-one, living-together type of life partnership with the right person.

- I am, however, very turned on by bathroom desperation - both omorashi and scat desperation.  Hands-free holding especially, and holding up to and past the last moment, to where release happens *despite* huge efforts to keep it in.  Vocalisations in the course of this turn me on too - not contrived sounds, sexual sounds, or swearing or blaspheming, and not as much actual words, but laboured breathing, breath-hitching and involuntary moans or grunts.  Especially love when a person is using both their hands and suddenly has to stop everything to give full attention to holding as the desperation ramps up.

- Before now I have never been able to orgasm without a very full bladder, and even that is unreliable.  To get to climax point I have to have built up to it by watching several desperation videos whilst getting really full myself, pelvic rocking, hard clenching of that muscle and at just the right time, elevating my pelvis whilst pressing down hard between my legs.  Then it kind of feels like the edge of a sword blade suddenly catching the sun - which is the point of no return - before topping and going over the crest of a wave and then being pummelled rhythmically from the inside out, but in a good way - like I'm a lump of dough being kneaded or something.  And I can extend it and trigger more pummelling by holding my mind in the right place and stroking the right places, but eventually I max out and the 'kneading' stops, leaving me very sensitised and gently pulsing - a feeling which fades over time.

- I've never managed to climax twice in a row this way.

- Until now, I've never felt an orgasm without extreme desperation too.

- I have mixed feelings about orgasming.  I LOVE the intensity of it, and of the loss of myself in pure sensation.  But I don't have very strong orgasmic pulses, and the emotion of it is far more rooted in desperation than it is in love or even happiness.  Love and happiness give me much more emotional pleasure - which I prioritise higher than physical pleasure.  So far I haven't found much real emotional pleasure in orgasm, but I'm working on it.  For these reasons it took me a long time to recognise that what I'm bringing myself to actually IS an orgasm - I had to research physiological processes that happen during orgasm, and get psychosexual counselling.

 

As you can see, it takes a lot of very specific mental and physical stimulation from inside and out, over a long period of time, to get me to orgasm.  I've wanted to do it more frequently, but don't want to have to go through the whole desperation rigmarole every time, so I've been exploring, taking note of feelings and what brings them about, and practicing getting into 'the zone' without a full bladder.  Today, for the first time ever and totally unexpectedly, I managed to orgasm with an empty bladder.  I was actually watching scat desperation/accidents, and started to feel aroused, but every time I nearly got to the sword-sun moment, I kept thinking "hey, this is so strange!  I'm finally about to orgasm without a full bladder!" and it took me out the zone.  Finally I managed to just lose myself in it, and climaxed at the point of involuntary release depicted in one video.

 

It didn't feel the same as with a full bladder - full feels like jumping on a fully inflated bouncy castle whereas empty feels more like jumping on a slightly deflated one, if that makes sense.  And the muscle contractions aren't so much like "POW!  POW!  POW!" or warm water rushing over me (how I imagined they might be), as like a fish tugging on the end of a line.  But at least now I know I can!  And I know what it feels like - which sensations are full bladder and which are orgasm!  At least I now know what I'm working to cultivate!!

 

Just had to tell someone!!!

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Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

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Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

Neat read, I'm glad you made progress towards your goal. :)

You okay there m8?

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SO happy right now!  Didn't actually think I would ever manage this.  It's not that I want to leave desperation behind - far from it - but for a long time I have dearly wanted to at least have the option of climaxing without a full bladder.  I mean, I don't want to have to rely on my bladder pushing itself to its limits to get that feeling - i go through crazes of wanting to orgasm a lot and then not so much.  Doing so too often could damage my bladder permanently if bladder fullness is the only way to achieve it.  Some basic info:

 

- I am single, and am not that turned on by anything to do with sex, fliratation or romance, though I would love a close and tactile (no snogging, no stripping, cuddling and hand holding and co-sleeping but no sex), David-and-Jonathan (in the wholly platonic sense) one-to-one, living-together type of life partnership with the right person.

- I am, however, very turned on by bathroom desperation - both omorashi and scat desperation.  Hands-free holding especially, and holding up to and past the last moment, to where release happens *despite* huge efforts to keep it in.  Vocalisations in the course of this turn me on too - not contrived sounds, sexual sounds, or swearing or blaspheming, and not as much actual words, but laboured breathing, breath-hitching and involuntary moans or grunts.  Especially love when a person is using both their hands and suddenly has to stop everything to give full attention to holding as the desperation ramps up.

- Before now I have never been able to orgasm without a very full bladder, and even that is unreliable.  To get to climax point I have to have built up to it by watching several desperation videos whilst getting really full myself, pelvic rocking, hard clenching of that muscle and at just the right time, elevating my pelvis whilst pressing down hard between my legs.  Then it kind of feels like the edge of a sword blade suddenly catching the sun - which is the point of no return - before topping and going over the crest of a wave and then being pummelled rhythmically from the inside out, but in a good way - like I'm a lump of dough being kneaded or something.  And I can extend it and trigger more pummelling by holding my mind in the right place and stroking the right places, but eventually I max out and the 'kneading' stops, leaving me very sensitised and gently pulsing - a feeling which fades over time.

- I've never managed to climax twice in a row this way.

- Until now, I've never felt an orgasm without extreme desperation too.

- I have mixed feelings about orgasming.  I LOVE the intensity of it, and of the loss of myself in pure sensation.  But I don't have very strong orgasmic pulses, and the emotion of it is far more rooted in desperation than it is in love or even happiness.  Love and happiness give me much more emotional pleasure - which I prioritise higher than physical pleasure.  So far I haven't found much real emotional pleasure in orgasm, but I'm working on it.  For these reasons it took me a long time to recognise that what I'm bringing myself to actually IS an orgasm - I had to research physiological processes that happen during orgasm, and get psychosexual counselling.

 

As you can see, it takes a lot of very specific mental and physical stimulation from inside and out, over a long period of time, to get me to orgasm.  I've wanted to do it more frequently, but don't want to have to go through the whole desperation rigmarole every time, so I've been exploring, taking note of feelings and what brings them about, and practicing getting into 'the zone' without a full bladder.  Today, for the first time ever and totally unexpectedly, I managed to orgasm with an empty bladder.  I was actually watching scat desperation/accidents, and started to feel aroused, but every time I nearly got to the sword-sun moment, I kept thinking "hey, this is so strange!  I'm finally about to orgasm without a full bladder!" and it took me out the zone.  Finally I managed to just lose myself in it, and climaxed at the point of involuntary release depicted in one video.

 

It didn't feel the same as with a full bladder - full feels like jumping on a fully inflated bouncy castle whereas empty feels more like jumping on a slightly deflated one, if that makes sense.  And the muscle contractions aren't so much like "POW!  POW!  POW!" or warm water rushing over me (how I imagined they might be), as like a fish tugging on the end of a line.  But at least now I know I can!  And I know what it feels like - which sensations are full bladder and which are orgasm!  At least I now know what I'm working to cultivate!!

 

Just had to tell someone!!!

 

I have no advice or anything constructive to offer, but I read this fully.  I'm only replying so, you know, you can feel like you've told somebody.

 

Well wishes.

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