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I got into a sticky situation in which I feel like I am being a creep: There is this dating app where people join "interest groups" to meet other members. I've been there for a long time, and saw groups before such as "I need to use the toilet often!", "I hate queuing for toilets", etc. But only recently I noticed a group for people who need to use diapers due to medical conditions. I browsed the (very few) members out of curiosity and one woman caught my attention as she was truly gorgeous, had a high level of education, and seemed like a nice person overall. And I swear I got carried away by her profile, sent her a message and totally forgot in which group I found her profile. We started chatting, found we have very similar interests, exchanged messages every day for almost a month, and decided to meet last week. When she asked in which group I found her profile (and what first attracted me to her), I froze. I felt really ashamed of my fetish, as I hadn't in years, and coldly lied about it. Only then I realized her diabetes (which she had told me about before) was the reason she had to use diapers, and I confess I didn't know the connection between diabetes and incontinence. I still haven't told her, but I feel like I was such an asshole for looking for women in that group, as if I'm enjoying their suffering. She also is such a fine person that I feel that she would be traumatized by knowing my fetish (I understand that in reality there isn't really any correlation, but that fear overpowers me). I lost my opportunity to be honest with her and now is probably too late for it (if I ever even had such an opportunity given the weirdness of the situation from my part). anyway... How to ethically approach the situation of potentially enjoying something that for other people is a cause of suffering. More specifically, how to deal with the ambiguity of the crossing between one person's sexual fetish and another's medical condition?
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Since this isn't an omo related thing and i'm not sure where else to discuss it, if there is a better place for me to talk about this let me know. I wanted to talk about disorders and disabilities, I know this is a hard topic for many to discuss, but I really wanna see how many people know how serious these things are. Years ago, many many many years ago, when I was in 3rd grade, the bullying I went through was horrible ( still is, ik people are gonna ask, I'm 18, still in school). It got to the point where I was diagnosed with TTM Disorder ( Trichotillomania ) if you don't know what that is, its a disorder that involves recurrent, irresistible urges to pull out body hair. It's a very common disorder due to stress and anxiety and depression. Me being the victim of bullying for 13 years, it caused me to have this disorder, leaving me without eyelashes or eyebrows. Ik they say the cure is antidepressants or counseling, but I been trying to get forced on them for years and I don't think medication should be my first and only option. I've had therapy but I don't like being talked down to like i'm 5 every time i go in there like always, and don't get me wrong, I have been to more than 1, but they all treat me like i'm a baby, which doesn't help me at all, plus they are paid people to listen to my problems, but don't really help me in any way. I still get bullied for it, course I never told people it was a disorder, I just said my eyebrows and lashes are really blonde so you can't see them, but people found out either way. It hurts for me to get made fun of for my disorder, and seeing many people in my school or anywhere get made fun of for their disorders or disabilities, it's heartbreaking to me, every time I see it i'm the only person to do something about it because no one should get made fun of, disability/disorder or not, it isn't right. I wanna hear anyone's story about these kind of issues, I have a couple more to share but I don't wanna make this super long. Let me know what your opinion is on all of these things.